March 20, 2009

"How are you"

Sometimes when people ask, "How are you?" I answer "Fine" and I mean just that -- things are right in my world.

But sometimes when people ask how I'm doing, "Fine" means this --

F = freaked out
I = insecure
N = neurotic
E = emotional

I learned this at a support group I used to attend and it's always been relevant. Even more so when you're living with cancer.


  1. Wynne6:25 PM

    I like this. So true, so true. Sometimes "fine" for me also means - I don't really want to talk about it at this minute.

  2. This is so true, and will help me feel better when I say "fine " next time. It can feel as if I'm not being true to myself when I come out with that word, but I don't always have the energy for an honesty session, and I hate to be negative and depressing. Now I'll think of this and know It's code for the truth of how I'm feeling. Thank you.